A Word To All The Dads On This Father’s Day

Are you a Dad? Do you love your children? Do you really? A better question might be…..do your children KNOW that you love them? If you were taken from this world today, could your children say without a doubt, “I know my Dad loved me.”

Today has been a hard day. Today is the second Father’s Day that my children have gone through without their Dad. My heart breaks for them as they look around at all the other kids celebrating with their Dad and all the pictures and posts about Dads.

But the thing that I am thankful for today is that all three of my kids will tell you with certainty that their Dad loved them and was proud of them. No having to wonder….they knew. They knew because he told them all the time. But more than that he showed them. He spent time with them. He talked to them. He listened to them. He did things with them. He laughed with them. He taught them. He instructed them. He disciplined them. He played with them. He went to their events. He sent them emails and texts. He talked to them on the phone. When he was at work…he was 100% at work, but when he was home…he was 100% at home. He made it a priority to spend one on one time with them. He played ball and tennis with them. He rode bikes with them and hiked with them and swam with them. He played in the ocean with them and made sand castles with them and surfed and boogie boarded with them. He played in the snow with them and made homemade ice cream with them. He put their needs and desires above his own. When they were babies, he fed them, he rocked them, he changed them, he read to them, he bathed them and dressed them. As they got older, he guided them and advised them and taught them about the things that were important in life. He shed tears over them. He shared his love of music, and baseball, and the outdoors, and humor with them. He marveled at stars and sunsets with them. He would discuss things with them and challenge their thinking. He helped lead all of them into a relationship with Jesus. And always, always….he prayed for them. He loved them and was proud of them…and they knew it.

He was never too busy for them. He was never too tired for them. He never had too much work to do that he couldn’t spend time with them. He chose not to take better-paying jobs that required more time away from the family..he chose the family over the money. He gave up golfing and hunting to spend time with them. He wasn’t perfect, but he loved them and they knew it.

So Dads, I ask you again….do your children know that you love them? If you were suddenly taken from this world, would they know with certainty that you loved them, or would they wonder? Would they wonder if you loved your job more than them? If you loved your sleep more than them? If you loved your television more than them? If you loved your drink more than them? If you loved your money or your toys more than them? If you loved your hobbies more than them? If you love yourself more than them???

Yes, today was a hard day. But, praise God my children know that their Dad loved them.





Jake, Katie, Dad and I

Trusting His Plan,


Who Is Your Travel Companion?

For the last 18 months or so, I have felt lost. Like I’m wandering aimlessly, not really knowing where I’m going. I’m traveling a road I don’t want to travel….a road that is leading me through a place I don’t know and I am not comfortable with; unfamiliar territory that is often lonely and frightening. And the really hard part is this: I don’t even know where this road is taking me. I don’t know the purpose in taking this road, this journey. Do you ever feel that way? Like you’re on a road that you aren’t comfortable being on, but there’s no way to turn around and take another way? The only way to wherever you’re going is down this frightening, lonely, frustrating road. We all find ourselves on these roads at times in our lives. Maybe you’re like me, and the death of your spouse has put you on this road. Maybe it’s the death of a parent, or child. Maybe it’s a failed marriage or relationship that has you on this lonely road; or maybe the lack of a marriage or relationship. It could be difficult financial situations that has you on a road filled with hardship and frustration, or a physical condition that has put you there. Our lives are made of up many of these difficult, scary, lonely roads. I believe that the only way to get safely to the end of these roads is to travel with a companion. That companion’s name is Faith. Faith to know that there is a purpose, there is a reason, there is an end. Faith to know that we are not alone and that Christ has already gone down this road ahead of us to prepare the way. Faith to know that even though the whole world may seem like it’s against us, He is for us. Faith to know that everything that happens to us is for our good and His glory. Now, don’t misunderstand what I’m saying. I didn’t say that our companion’s name is Understanding. Because I don’t understand the purpose or reason for being on this road. Nor do I understand how traveling this road can be for my good. What I did say is that our companion’s name is Faith. Faith to believe all these things, even when I don’t understand them. Faith to believe that even if I never fully realize the purpose of my journey this side of Heaven, one day I will understand. I was reminded of this in my time with the Lord this morning. I was reading Hebrews 11….often referred to as the “Hall of Faith”. I was reminded of how Abraham was called to travel a road that he knew nothing about and to go, not knowing where he was going. God called him to leave all that he knew and was familiar with. It wasn’t an easy road for Abraham…it was a long, difficult journey. But, Abraham was blessed for his faithfulness. I feel just like that. I’ve been called to leave a place that I never wanted to leave, a place that I loved and was comfortable with and secure in, to go to a place that I know nothing about. But just like Abraham, I am choosing to take Faith as my companion, trusting that the Lord is leading me into the land of promise! I pray that if you are one of the many who are on a road you’d rather not be on and you don’t even know where you’re going, that you will also choose to take Faith as your companion! By faith Abraham obeyed when he was called to go out to a place that he was to receive as an inheritance. And he went out, not knowing where he was going. By faith he went to live in the land of promise. Hebrews 11:8-9 Trusting His Plan, Sandra

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